I typically don’t watch the Bachelor but I thought there could be some lessons I could learn and share. And so tonight I gave it a go. It was much to Cristian’s disappointment, poor thing had to sit through the whole thing and listen to my commentary). Tonight taught us the dos and don’ts of a first impression. Here’s a short episode recap.
It’s all about the energy you put out
The first rose and Bachie key went to Brooke, a 23-year student from Perth. Her and Bachie share some witty banter and a love for sport (cute). When he gave her the rose, he explained that it was her energy and vulnerability that made her stand out. The energy between them was light, easy and playful. When you meet someone for the first time, pay attention to how you want to make them feel. If you’re nervous on a date, your date will pick up on it and feel nervous too. Nick Cummins looked so uncomfortable when Cass nervously told him that he was everything she wanted this year.
Dating isn’t a game, playing hard to get is outdated
If you’ve read any of my stuff you’ll know that I don’t believe in making a guy obsessed with you or make him ‘wanting more’. It was something Vanessa Sunshine said when she confidently told the other contestants that she wanted to leave him hanging. But as we inched closer to the end of the ceremony, we saw her confidence shaken as she told the producers that she was better than all the girls he picked. And when Nick finally gave her the last rose, I wasn’t sure if she was going to accept or slap him. As beautiful as she is, I’m not convinced she’s the one for Nick: “Vanessa, she’s beautiful… I just don’t know if I should be running or chasing.”
Focus on the guy, not everyone, and everything else around it
When you’re meeting someone for the first time, you want to make a good impression. A way to do it is to just be present. It’s distracting when you’re in a room full of new people and producers and film crew all around but it seemed some of the women were caught up in the drama of it all. Not once did I see Alisha talk to Nick (perhaps it got edited out) or talk about him. She did, however, give a ton of commentary on the other women. No doubt she’ll stick around, if not just for the entertaining commentary alone.
While we’re on first impressions, here’s what else I’ve noticed…
It didn’t take long for the drama to unfold. I can already see the subplots brewing:
- Former fling Cass who seems convinced that she’s the one for Honey Badger. Everyone made such a big deal out of the fact that they met. This is the Bachelor, it’s a producer’s job to do the background checks and throw some curveballs into ‘reality tv’. Shows like this are bred for drama. You can’t expect much else when you through one guy in with 25 other women
- Drama between Cat and Sophie (Sophie apparently dated Cat’s ex, not sure why this was SUCH a big deal but it gave Alisha plenty to talk about). Speaking of Alisha, did anyone else notice how much time she spent talking about everyone except Bachie?
- And then there is Vanessa Sunshine. You have to watch it to know that she’s definitely going to stir the pot
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