Hi my name is Iona, I’m a relationship coach for single women but before I get into my story, lets talk about you. Isn’t it hard to be single? I mean just having to bear with blind dates, bad dates…having to explain why you’re rocking up to another family event solo, dealing with the loneliness is hard even for tough cookies. And then there’s that nagging little fear that you may end up alone with a few cats and dogs…It’s hard being the single woman all the time but it doesn’t have to be…
Sometimes it takes one breakup to change your perspective on life and love. For me, it was the breakup of 2013. I write about that breakup from time to time because I know there’d be others going through the same set of roller coaster emotions.
It was the month after my 31st birthday when we broke up. I think he did most of the breaking up and I just reacted and went along with the motions. The next day, I found myself packing up the 2.5 years we spent together. The week after, I moved out of the apartment we called home. The weeks after that were spent sorting out visa issues and finding a new job. The breakup had turned my life upside down in more ways than one.
I panicked. And though my parents didn’t say it, they did too. They feared I was never going to meet anyone else, that I’d pass the expiration date. People were telling me about a ‘man drought’ happening in Sydney (not true by the way). Friends would either look at me sympathetically or tried to set me up with their only single friend. Those fears bred more fear until I decided to shut it out. Because it’s your mindset that influences the events that shape your life. My mindset turned my life around.
I shifted my focus and started this blog as a creative and emotional outlet. I changed the way I felt about dating, relationships. I took up dancing. I got a life and fell in love with it. It took me about a year to recover from that breakup and 1.5 years to start dating again. Like any other journey, it wasn’t all easy but I’d do it all over again (the good and bad).
If you’re going through a breakup or are frustrated with dating, I get it.
The stakes are higher when you’re dating and breaking up in your 30s. You may have kids, pets, homes and emotional baggage. Or you may have friends and family nagging you about settling down. You may have recently just gone on another bad date. It’s not all bad and scary – I promise!
Dating and relationships are tricky. But when you finally meet the love of your life, it’s incredibly worthwhile. They say ‘happiness is a journey, not a destination’. This blog is about enjoying the journey of finding the relationship you’ve been waiting for. It’s a journey about dating, relationships, breakups and everything in between.
If you have any questions, story ideas or just want to share your story with me, get in touch. I’d LOVE to hear from you. Email is 30everafter (@) gmail.com
Relationship Status: Happily Taken